Self-love doesn’t require becoming a better, thinner, more successful, or more confident version of yourself first. It begins with the woman who is already here. Falling for the Woman You Already Are explores what it means to treat yourself with loyalty, honesty, compassion, and care—even on the days when you aren’t particularly impressed with yourself.

Comparison becomes unfair when we collect the best parts of other people’s lives and use them as the standard for our own. Here’s how to notice what you admire without turning someone else’s advantages into evidence that you are not enough.

I thought this journey would be measured by the number on the scale. Instead, I discovered that some of the biggest changes were happening where no one else could see them—in my mindset, my confidence, and the way I was beginning to live each day.